Now that Chandler and I have been married for almost a year and a half, the thought of starting a family has definitely crossed my mind. Although we aren’t in a place to have kids right at this moment, we hope to be there one day soon.
If I’m being completely transparent, the thought of having children also scares me big time. I’ve always loved babysitting and watching other people’s kids for small amounts of time, but becoming a parent is scary. Being a parent means changing diapers, making appointments, thousands of endless responsibilites and have someone’s better interest above yours at all times. It means looking after a “little” person constantly and taking on another a full-time job. With that being said, experiencing birthdays, Christmases, and the little joys of life look so different through the eyes of a child. Kids are a special part of you and your spouse that can never be taken away.
Chandler will also be the best dad. I cannot wait to see him take on a new role and fully embrace his nurturing side. Although he often tries to show off his hard exterior, Chandler is a big softie and actually does better showing his emotions than I do. He will be the best at being the “fun” dad and teaming up against //.
To our future children…
I know absolutely nothing about you at this point in time. Right now, I am a “late-twenty somethings” adult who is trying to make her way into the real world and see where I end up. I am figuring my life as an adult (scary, amiright?) and learning how to embrace responsibilities that I will someday, hopefully, pass down to you. I would be lying if I said I did not think about you often. I wonder what your passions will be, what music you will listen to or what your laugh will sound like. I also catch myself picturing what you will look like and if you’ll have my eyes or your dad’s lips. Whatever you look like, you are already in the back of my mind.
When you are crying at all hours of the night needing to be fed and changed, we will be there sleepily and happily ready to rock you back to sleep.
When you are scrape your knee at school and get a “boo boo,” we will kiss it to make it better.
When you are in your middle school phase and want nothing to do with us, we will understand. You’ll come back around.
When you graduate high school and move away to college, we will be right where you left us.
When you eventually get married and have kids of your own, we will be there to help you in any way we can.
To my children, you are loved.
To my children, you are heard.
To my children, you are seen.
To my children, you are cherished.
To see you to make messes, make mistakes and to also explore the ins-and-outs of life will be such a joy for your dad and I. As you are explore the world and experience the magic of what it has to offer firsthand, we will support you in all that you do.
Remember to take it easy on us, as we are learning with you. We, as your parents, aren’t perfect by any means. Know that as much as we try to keep things together and in order, we will mess up. You can come to us at any time with anything at any time, even after a big disagreement. We want the best for you and will always be your biggest cheerleaders. Just like my mom was for me, I promise to be the “loud mouth” parent on the sidelines of your little league soccer game or cheerleading competitions. Your dad and I will be cheering you on from the moment you take your first steps until you walk across the stage for high school (or college) graduation. We will always be in your corner.
Also know that living in this broken and fragile world can be tough. People can be cruel and life unfair, but believe me when I say that the Lord is substantially better than anything this world has to offer. We are running an Eternal race that should be run well and with Heaven in mind. (#sticktothetask) Remember that none of us are perfect and Christ will intercede on our behalf daily. Point others to Christ and aim to walk with Him daily. We are set on this planet to be kind, intentional and to help others. Pay it forward when you can. Also know that you won’t be perfect, but will always be enough. Surround yourself with family and friends that are always looking for ways to uplift and protect. Your village is so, so important and who you have around you in the valleys and on the mountaintops makes all the difference.
Know that your dad and I will love you so much, even from the very moment we find out you first exist.
We are here to support you in any way possible and will be with you every step of the way. Keep the Lord at your forefront and everything else will fall into place.
I look forward to meeting you someday, but until then I will keep living and learning so one day I can share life lessons with you.
(pre) Mom & Dad
What is some key advice for first-time parents? What is something you wish someone had told you before having kids?